“Congratulations! It’s a match”. Wow. But what next? First impression is not the last impression but it’s definitely a significant impression. How do you proceed? Is a ‘Hey’ going to impress the person on the other side? Will ‘What’s up’ be good enough to begin your conversation with?
Dating applications are a rage in today’s age and in the world of right and left swipes, opening lines do make a huge difference. It shows how much genuine effort you put in, to know the other person.
We have your back; buddy as we are going to list down 5 different ways you can start conversations which are definitely way better than ‘Hey’.
Now there’s a very thin line between a genuine compliment and unabashed flattery. Make sure you don’t cross that line. An honest candid compliment can put a smile on anyone’s face. You can use something like “That’s one of the most beautiful bios I have read in the longest time” or “I love the fact that you love to read” or “You have got a wonderful smile.” Simple and sweet, aren’t they? Well, another thing to keep in mind is, make sure you throw compliments only if you mean them and not because you just need something impressive to say. Everyone can read in between the lines so do keep away from fallacious flattery. Keep it real.
A sense of humor is a needful armor. We’re always happy with the people who can make us laugh and whom we can laugh with. So to tickle his/her funny bone, put your act together and create something humorous. For example: “Hey, so when our friends ask us how we met, what are we going to tell them?” or “Hey, I like the way you stare at one of those pictures. It makes you look like you’re plotting something on your mind. Want to help me kidnap two puppies?”
Well, it’s really not about what are the exact words you use. It’s really about what kind of vibe you convey. So if you can get the other person laughing, pat your back, you made a good start.
Well, this can get interesting and has got a lot of potentials if the right kinds of questions are asked. A smart and witty question can arouse interest in the other person and they would in turn make an initiative to think of an appropriate answer. The question can be arbitrary; about anything you want the other person’s opinion in, anything that you assume will interest the two of you. It can range from politics, sports, philosophy, music to travel, food and literature. Well, it can be anything under the sun, depending upon your instinct. Something like “When was the last time you did something for the first time?” or “What’s that one song you listen to when you’re extremely happy?” If the question is right, few months down the line the answer might be ‘Yes’.
Don’t treat your matches like generic sales calls, personalize your approach. Go through the person’s profile thoroughly, check the pictures and read the bio and interests. Look out for things that intrigue you. And when you find something, comment on that. Makes for a much smoother interaction. For example, someone might have Harry Potter as one of their likes in their profile. So you can start with “Hello. Pleased to meet you. I’m X(insert your name) from Durmstang.”
And if you want to try something goofy and funny, you can take the risk to go a notch higher and say “So we both like Harry Potter. If we ever end up role-playing I want to be Dobby.” If the other gets the humor in this, he/she will definitely appreciate your wit.
5. BE RANDOM
Randomness often turns out to be a good surprise because you receive what you didn’t expect and surprises are mostly positive. Being away from the usual on dating apps is always a plus point so put on your creative hat and come up with something absolutely out of the blue.
“Phew I almost swiped left and had a heart attack. Saved at the last minute.” Or “70 miles away! Can you breathe up there? Do you have parachute? Can you bring back some fresh air in a jar?” Surely going to get you instant replies.
Well, having said that, the best advice would be ‘Just Be Yourself.’ Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not, for the sake of making an impression or to outsmart the other.
Make use of this article and give it your best.